Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
The Dash (by Linda Ellis)
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end
He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not how much we own;
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
©1996 Linda Ellis
Monday, April 28, 2008
Ok, I've decided to take on the six word memoir as many of you have already done. Of course I have a few. There's the light side and the dark side.
Legend has it that Hemingway was once challenged to write a story in only six words. His response? “For sale: baby shoes, never worn.” Last year, SMITH Magazine re-ignited the recountre by asking our readers for their own six-word memoirs. They sent in short life stories in droves, from the bittersweet (“Cursed with cancer, blessed with friends”) and poignant (“I still make coffee for two”) to the inspirational (“Business school? Bah! Pop music? Hurrah”) and hilarious (“I like big butts, can’t lie”).
- No regrets, I carry on, remembering.
- I have clothes and shoes, closets bursting.
- I sleep, dog snores, sweet dreams.
- Mom can't remember anymore, I help.
- I smile, I remember, I love.
Please feel free to do this yourself. It's not as easy as it looks.
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Let me preface this by saying that when I go to Loving Annie's blog, I get an immediate feeling of "AH", it's nice to be here. It's like putting your feet up and letting out a big sigh. Comfortable.
When Annie and I arrived at the designated "Tea" spot, I got that same feeling. I felt like I knew her forever. She was one of the nicest people I've had the occasion to meet. We gabbed about life, love, silliness...heartaches, while being served the "oh so lovely" tea! Annie took notes so she can write the entire menu in her blog when she gets home to California. The server was giving her the eye as she was writing, probably thinking she was a food critic of some kind...hehe.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Blaming your farts on me.....
not funny... not funny at all !!!
Yelling at me for barking.
I'M A FRIGGIN' DOG
Taking me for a walk, then
not letting me check stuff out.
Exactly whose walk is this anyway?
Any trick that involves balancing
food on my nose. Stop it!
Any haircut that involves bows or ribbons.
Now you know why we chew your stuff
up when you're not home.
The sleight of hand, fake fetch throw.
You fooled a dog! Whoooo Hoooooooo what
a proud moment for the top of the food chain.
Taking me to the vet for "the big snip",
then acting surprised when I freak
out every time we go back!
Getting upset when I sniff the crotches of your guests.
Sorry, but I haven't quite mastered that handshake thing yet.
Dog sweaters. Hello ???
Haven't you noticed the fur?
How you act disgusted when I lick myself.
Look, we both know the truth. You're just jealous.
Also, Happy Earth Day! I remember when I was in high school how important this day was and we would all converge out to the neighborhood and clean up litter strewn parking lots and such...we had to create posters and remind people to keep the earth in good order for future generations. I guess we didn't do such a good job, huh? ;-(
I hope it's not too late.
(Have a great day, I'm off to get ready for Tea at the Plaza!)
Monday, April 21, 2008
Happy Monkey Monday.....Although Mondays don't hold the dread they used to and I don't have to cheer myself up because i have to trudge to the office, I'm going to continue with wishing those who have to face another work week a Happy Monkey Monday. Keep smiling.....I am!
It was a rainy chilly weekend here, so I didn't spend too much time outside in my newly forming garden. I just hope what I planted won't die on me. I just planted a few geraniums then as it warms up I'll add more. In the back I planted lots of bulbs: astibe, anemones, and ranunculus.
I have different color geraniums planted all across the front...this one looks so lonely, but really, it's going to look nice after I add the other "stuff".
Oh and guess what I'm doing tomorrow???? I'm meeting the very lovely Loving Annie
for "tea" at the Plaza Hotel in NYC!
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Saturday, April 19, 2008
Most folks drink some sort of a morning beverage, be it coffee or tea, and most likely from a mug. Please share a photo of your favorite mug(s) and tell a story about how it became your favorite. Include what you drink with this mug.
Lois (from Lowdown from Lois) has challeged us with the above meme....which I thought was a great idea..(and it wasn't really a challenge ;-)
I drink one cup of coffee in the morning...a big one tho...around 16 ounces......and then that's it for the rest of the day. I can't drink coffee in the evenings, it keeps me awake. I bought a set of four of these mugs at Costco a while ago. I was attracted to the color and the saying on it: "Water the wishes that blossum in your heart". One I kept in my office but I used it as a vase of sorts. I filled it with water and used it to root plants. I left it with a plant in it, on my desk at work so I hope the next person will enjoy it as much as I did. Hub, of course, didn't use these mugs, they were too "girly" for him. He used a big old plastic mug.....so boring! ;-)
Have a great Saturday.....(it's Saturday every day for me. I'm just saying. ;-)
Thursday, April 17, 2008
"Suffering breaks our world. Like a tree struck by lightening - splintered, shaken, denuded - our world is broken by suffering, and we will never be the same again. What will become of us is a mystery." _- Nathan Kollar
I still don't know where I'll wind up. I'm still growing into my new self. I consider this part of my life as the "Dawning of Odat".
The roller coaster of emotions I experienced right after hub passed is slowing down a bit, but it's still there, the ride has just gotten a little bit easier. And it's true what they say about "firsts". It's not only the first anniversary or the first birthday that passes...it's everything! Planting my garden, going into Barnes and Nobles, even driving his van...all these things have deep memories attached to them. There are times I just stop and bawl my eyes out and times I laugh my head off. The crazy world of widowhood. It's ok though, this is the way it's suppose to happen. But I'm not the person I was before hub. BH? Can I say that...yes I can....he would have thought that funny. He was a funny man! I hear his voice all the time too. Giving me advice about things around the house and me telling him to hush, I'll do it my way! Him rolling his eyes and thinking OOOOKKKKK...go ahead and see....it won't work, ya know. And I still have his orange T-Shirt with me on the couch at night....I smell him. It comforts me.
Like I said, I don't know what the "new me" will look like, but I'm making sure I get there in the most healthiest way possible, despite the wacky world I live in.
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
I'm getting down and dirty.......in my garden!
It's a great feeling to start ...to take care of things that need to be done, and doing them because you want to and not because you have to. To do them at your leisure instead of fitting it all in on a weekend. And I feel good too, physically, because I've been doing a lot of physical work around and outside the house.....and I'm not resenting doing it either. I bought some geraniums (red, peach and white) to put in the front of the house....I get full sun there and geraniums usually do real well and they're very hardy. I haven't planted them yet because it was still a bit chilly all week here...it's supposed to warm up by the end of the week. So I'll most likely do it Friday. Once I get them in the ground I'll decide what I'll put there next. I also have a big flower bed in the back that I'd like to get started again. I haven't had the time for a garden in a long time so this makes me happy. ;-)
Oh I'm sooo boring, ain't I? I sound retired!!!!!!!!! OHHHHH NOOOOO! hehe. But I have to tell you, I feel soo relaxed and good!!!
Sunday, April 13, 2008
I walked in with butterflies in my stomach. I met up with Twinhead before walking into the "exquisite" restaurant (see last post for a tour and the menu). I sat in the "lounge area" to put on my heels before walking to the back, seeing looks from other diners that said "Who's that nut job with the "Officially Retired" Tiara on her head???" Ha, doncha wish your girlfriend was hot like me, I shot back to them with my eyes.....hehe.
People started to arrive. I felt like I was getting married.....it's tough work to meet and greet and hold conversations with people you haven't seen in a while. I was determined to be cheerful and happy about it. I knew hub would want me to be. I just wish he could have been there. He was, in spirit. I could just see him giving me "the look" when I cracked a joke or tried to flirt.....He was sooo conservative and I was just the opposite. I guess that's why we went well together.The food was fabulous.......the salad bar was filled with everything you can imagine...from greens to spaghetti bolognase to sushi to corn salad with hot peppers, every kind of vegetable and rice you can imagine cooked every way you can imagine. I didn't take pics of the place cause I was too busy gabbing and hugging and laughing with old friends and colleagues. (you can see it if you go back to my last post). When we finally got settled in at the tables we were bombarded with five waiters carrying saber like sword skewers with every kind of cut of meat you can imagine. They stopped at your place and slid off filet mignon wrapped in bacon, sirloin beef sliced right off the roast, chicken, pork, sausages, and they kept coming back again and again. OMG! It was so much food it was outrageous. Besides the meat they give you big bowls of mashed potatoes, fried yucca and french fries!
After finishing the roasts of every kind, it was time to roast me! Everyone who spoke had really nice things to say, even if they were funny about it. After all I always had fun when I worked....it made life a lot easier that way. I wasn't sad at all about leaving in spite of the fact that I made good friends there. It's just time to travel a new path. I realized how blessed I am though. I have good friends and a good life, in spite of the twists and turns it takes. Bring it on!
Thursday, April 10, 2008
The "lawn man" came yesterday to tidy up the place. (I'd much rather have the cabana boy, but hey.....). I can't wait to plant some flowers!
Snot dog is just loving it that I'm here all day with him! He never leaves my side and always has to have me in his eyesight at all times....kinda sad tho.....cause when I have to go out, he gives me that LQQK........breaks my heart. I don't let it get to me tho...;-)
Tomorrow is my retirement party!!! It's being held at Porcao Chrrascaria , in NYC. Take a tour of the place...It's really nice!
In the meantime, I'm taking a few days off from the blog world. But I will be stopping in to read and comment, just not going to post.
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Jack was going to be married to Jill, so his father sat him down for a little chat. He said, 'Jack, let me tell you something. On my wedding night in our honeymoon suite I took off my pants, handed them to your mother, and said, 'Here - try these on.''
She did and said, 'These are too big, I can't wear them.'
I replied, ''Exactly, I wear the pants in this family and I always will.' Ever since that night we never had any problems.'
'Hmmm,' said Jack. He thought that might be a good thing to try.
On his honeymoon, Jack took off his pants and said to Jill, 'Here try these on.'
She tried them on and said, 'These are too large. They don't fit me.'
Jack said, 'Exactly. I wear the pants in this family and I a ways will. I don't want you to ever forget that.'
Then Jill took off her pants and handed them to Jack. She said, 'Here ... you try on mine.'
He did and said, 'I can't get into your pants.'
Jill said, 'Exactly. And if you don't change your smart ass attitude, you never will.'
And they lived happily ever after.
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
So.....is retirement cracked up to be what they say it is? I'm not really sure what "they" say, but for me the first week has been wonderful. I've certainly been busy, that's for sure. I've got lots to do. I'm working on the house. The first order of business is to get the lawn back in shape and plant my garden. It's still on the chilly side here, which is odd, so I may have to wait a bit longer for the flower garden. Hub and I used to plant loads of vegetables at one point...but I'm not going to do that...I'm trying to keep things simple. I've been visiting Mom a lot, she finally perked up again so that's a load off mind. My retirement party is this Friday and I've got a few lunch dates with those who can't make that party. I'm also still doing paper work to straighten out a few things. That's taking a bit longer than I thought, but I'm trudging away. All in all, it's a good feeling. I feel a lot more relaxed. I've been getting plenty of exercise too. (After all, I've got to look good in that bikini I'll be donning (or not) when I get to Tahiti ;-)
I haven't been visiting all that many blogs lately but I pop in to everyone now and then. I don't keep my computer on all day like when I was at work, so I try to catch up a bit while I'm on here.
Oh and on a sadder note, one of my friend's husband died over the weekend. I just can't believe it. What a weird feeling that is, that we're both widows I mean. I'm going to be there when she crashes...I've got some experience now. So very sad, isn't it?
See y'all tomorrow.