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Monday, December 29, 2008

Another Year Passes


"His absence is like the sky, spread over everything". ....C.S. Lewis

New Year's Eve is hub's birthday (was?).  I don't know.  I'm feeling kinda screwed up now.  In spite of the fact that I put a good face on to the public, the holidays have me having little mini breakdowns every night.  I cry.  I miss him.  I laugh at all our good memories and know I'm not going crazy. I'm just walking down the path of mourning and grief.  One never knows when it's going to hit.  It's all ok though.  

I wish you all a good year ahead.  Keep smiling.  And know that no matter what happens in your life, you can get through it.

Peace

32 comments:

Sarge Charlie said...

I wish I had some good comforting thing to say that would make you pain go away. I do have a big HUG for you.

buffalodick said...

You will get through too... Wishing you a great 2009!

Patti said...

I wish I had something brilliant and comforting to say, Odat. I do know you'll get through it.

May 2009 be a wonderful year for you, and Spud too!

Loving Annie said...

Oh Odat, honey ((hugs)) Grief is like that, no matter how brave you are, or good your intentions at being strong and optimistic.

Grief is a natural thing, and it comes when it comes.

Memories are precious, your hubby was a large part of your life for many many years, this is normal...

It's only been a year or so, and the anniversary of his birthday - and it being the holidays - would be bound to make you feel sentimental, and the loss of him.

((hugs again))

Loving Annie

Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

i have no words either. i wish i did honey. just a hug...

bee
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Akelamalu said...

I can only imagine what it must be like for you m'dear. I have no magic words on sincere ones - I feel for you. xx

Dianne said...

new year's and your husband's birthday - it's like a double whammy isn't it?

but you are a light and strong soul - I admire your strength and resolve

hugs lady

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Just know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers honey.

Biggest hugs ever and lotsa lovies too. :)

Palm Springs Savant said...

Talk to him, it helps. At least I think it does. I talk to my father almost every day and he has been gone for 25 years now (amazingly).

Hang in there, know that you have blogger friends who are thinking about you. And beleive me, I do have you in my thoughts and prayers.

-Rick

Lone Grey Squirrel said...

If I were there with you, I'd help you celebrate his birthday. I hope that there are others who can actually do so. May the grief lessen and the joy remain.

The CEO said...

Happy New Year, and for many, many more happy, healthy ones too!

Monty

Mimi Lenox said...

I can't imagine your pain, Odat. I wish I could give you a very big hug. Know that your friends are here. I hope that helps a little.

Love,
Mimi

Girl on the Run... said...

Happy Holidays Odat! Wishing you all the very best of health happiness love peace and joy in 2009 ! M

the walking man said...

O...Tears caused by remembering a loved one gone to sleep are a blessing. The tears are the water in the garden of memory and love.

Funny thing about love eh? Even though the giver of it dies and goes to sleep the love itself remains a cherished reality as long as the recipient of it lives on.

Sadness is not a bad emotion, but a part of the healing that comes to open wounds left behind when the heart is torn from our soul, yet it is not the last emotion in the matter; happiness at the time we were able to spend with them we love is the end of it all.

While the time ,may seem short, I contend that it is exactly right. The duration of time given to be together with that love of our life was what taught us to love and that makes it just right.

Right now, today while you go through the days seemingly endless thoughts of the one you are missing consider this: He may not be physically with you anymore but his love for you endures throughout the remainder of your own life.

His body s absent and that IS a sad thing but his love for you and all that grows from it endures.

Great Peace upon YOU.

Odat said...

Thanks all for you sweet thoughts...they are much appreciated...Love yas!!!

walking man....wow, just wow.

Peace

WillThink4Wine said...

Wow, what can I say after reading walking man's words. Wow.

There's no getting over the loss of someone you love deeply. There is only relearning to live again, without them. It's real hard, and there are no shortcuts. Hugs, Odat.

Heff said...

Nice post. Have a great 2009 (if possible)

BikerbabeNJ said...

Happy New Year ((((((((((((Chicklet)))))))))))))

storyteller's other blog said...

As I learned in 'Free To Be You and Me' by Marlo Thomas and friends decades ago ... 'It's okay to cry. Crying gets the sad out of you.' Love, JOY ... loss, grief ... remembrance ... it's all part of life and as my dad (who died 34 years ago when I was 30) used to tell me, 'Pain & grief do not kill even though they may hurt us deeply ... and in the end, we are stronger.' I know from experiences with death and loss that love and connections remain with us forever ... and prayers are answered, often in surprising ways.
Hugs and blessings,

Patti said...

Hi Odat,
Thanks for visiting me today ~ now go outside and play in the snow with Spud!

May 2009 bring you joy.

Julie said...

Yup, you're gonna be just fine. You have way too many smart friends and you're learning from them!

I will hold a glass at midnight to you and all the wisdom you have garnered.

Okay...maybe I'll do it at 10pm...seems I never found my game today.

Vixen said...

You are a strong and brave lady. Seeing your strength when your husband passed is part of the inspiration I used to get through my grandson's death in August.

May you have a blessed New Years and may peace find your heart this evening.

Roger said...

All the best to you in 2009 Odat! :D

crazy working mom said...

Happy New Year, my friend!!!

Odat said...

All your words help me...thanks so much ......

Vixen, I am so so sorry :-( to hear that. Walk thru your wilderness and know that you are not going crazy...one day you'll come out on the other side....Bless you.

Peace

Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

Happy New Year, Odat!

May you be blessed with much happiness and many joys in 2009!

maryt/theteach said...

Oh Odat, I know it must be hard but you have been so brave... Know that I'm thinking about you and I wish you a much better year ahead. :)

citizen of the world said...

Crying is not a break-down. You'll grieve when and how you need to. I hope the new year brings you a measure of peace.

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katherine. said...

you have come a long way already....but really...it hasn't been that long.

the loss never really goes away...it just becomes woven into who you are..and those like you who are blessed...get to go on.

sending warm thoughts and prayers...wishing you more memories that make you smile...and less that make you cry.

Sandy B and Dick said...

Odat, it is OK to cry and to be sad...all part of the grieving process. Enjoy your good memories, and smile over them. Sending lots of big hugzzz to you!

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