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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

She Went To Dance......



My Mom's dementia caused me to lose the person she was 12 years ago. The person she became was a child, who I cared for and loved. She didn't remember having children, but she liked me anyway, She sang and she laughed. She was one of the lucky ones if you can even use the word lucky along with dementia. Her body was strong but her mind as we knew it, disappeared.
Mom died in her sleep on Thursday. Peacefully.
She went to dance with my Dad!
Peace

11 comments:

Sandee said...

I'm so sorry Odat. May she dance with your Dad forever. :)

barb @iPhoneographi said...

I'm so sorry honey.

I was named after my father's sister Barbara. A delightful, sweet and loving lady, until Alzheimer's took her. The last 10 years of so of her life were absolutely heartbreaking for my uncle and cousins.

I'm glad your mother was one of the luckier ones and that she was able to laugh and sing her way to Heaven.

Akelamalu said...

I'm so sorry for your loss Odat. I'm sending Reiki to your Mum to help her on her journey to your Dad and to you too, I hope it eases your grief. xx

Sarge Charlie said...

She will love the dance, while she looks down on miss odat with pride.

"Lois Grebowski" said...

Hugs, Odat! That explains why you've been in my thoughts lately.

Strength, wisdom, faith and peace, my friend.

secret agent woman said...

I'm sorry to hear that. My father has dementia and I also like the person he has become. Peace to you.

Palm Springs Savant said...

Oh gosh I am so sorry to hear of your loss. That is never easy, even despite the long duration of her dementia. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Odat said...

Thank you all for your lovely and heartfelt comments. Ya know something, no matter how prepared I thought I was for this, when it happens, it's still hit me like a ton of bricks.
She lived a good life in spite of having two crazy children :-)
Peace

lgsquirrel said...

I am so sorry for your loss. You are right to say that your mom was one of the lucky ones. It is important and it does matter that she was happy and that she had you. Wishing you peace and love Odat.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Odat, you are loved and cherished by all who know you. I'm so very sorry for your loss as you try to reconcile your memories of your mother when she was your mother with the later ones, when she couldn't be and you had to be hers. It's a most brutal and confusing disease, but I do think that her lightness of spirit was a blessing. And your loss is your dad's gain.

Traveling Bells said...

How did I miss this post? Sorry I am late, but I do send my condolences. I know your parents are watching over you with joy. Big hugs, honey...