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Thursday, February 14, 2008

Valentine's Day


He had my heart. I had his. Ah, the starry eyed bliss of a new marriage. Fourteen years ago today we exchanged our hearts and started down a path of "unionhood". (I made that word up).
My hub was a very private man, (unlike me) that's why I never spoke about him. I wanted to honor his privacy. But now I can tell you all about him!

He was strong, he was honorable, he was funny. He was always fixing things but never finishing the job....he had tools that could rebuild a city, yet he was a businessman who wore a suit every day and hated it. He loved nature and came alive when we went anyplace outside the city. He would sit all day with a camera to capture a deer eating blueberries from the bushes. He would try so hard to learn to cook a great meal.....and wondering why it never came out the way the recipe said it would. (he was always changing the ingredients to things he thought would work better). I would try to eat it...then laugh, and wound up cooking something a little more palatable. He was always playing practical jokes on me. Some funny, some not. He was a perfectionist, I wasn't. When I hang a picture on the wall I look at the place where I want it and hammer a nail in. He would get out all his tools...and measure and make sure there were no beams or electric wiring ...yada yada yada....took him all day for pete's sake! ;-) And forget about painting walls...that would take months! I always dreaded doing projects with him. But it was those times when we would work together as a team and I believe helped us stay together as a team. Now I have projects to finish and work to do on the house and he's not here anymore to drive me nuts. I wish he were.

Happy Anniversary Sweetheart.
Peace

30 comments:

Matt-Man said...

Sweet Odat. Y'know you can still "spend the day with him" in a way. Happy Thoughts and Happy Valentine's Day. Cheers!!

buffalodickdy said...

There are many kinds of love. This must be a hard day for you, but for what it's worth- I'm glad you had a "Valentine" all those years, and hope someday if you want, you find another... Valentine wishes from me to you...

Sarge Charlie said...

You get a double squeeze from me on valentine's day

Anonymous said...

a beautiful tribute to your valentine, twinhead. may your memories comfort you.
Twinhead

Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

hi odat. this is a lovely post and tribute to him. it made me think of what i would say about sarge. he has two tools, a plastic butter knife and a chain saw. i'll gladly let him help you fix stuff if you want but i would suggest you use the phone instead. hugs to you odat...

smiles, bee
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

The CEO said...

What a beautiful talent you have to express yourself so magnificently. Happy Valentine's Day. And, Thank You.

Monty

Anndi said...

That was beautiful...

Hugs to you today, and every day.

Love and Peace

Claudia said...

sounds like some good years. Hugs..

Casdok said...

Unionhood, what a lovely word, and you certainly have a way with them.
Hugs from C and I. :)

katherine. said...

he was a fine man Odat....thanks for sharing him with us.

fourteen years...wow

Lone Grey Squirrel said...

Thanks for sharing with us. We cannot but sense that he was a great and special guy. Happy Anniversary. ((Hugs))

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

What a beautiful post Odat. Beautiful. Big hug honey. You are in my thoughts and prayers. :)

Lois Grebowski said...

What a beautiful post, Odat! Hugs to you... big squishy ones for today.

The Mama Bear said...

I just want to wrap you in Mama Bear hugs right now dear.
This was a beautiful tribute.

vixensden said...

Thank you for sharing him with us. What a beautiful love you share. You are so very strong, I am humbled.

Peace back to you.

Dianne said...

If I was there to hug you it would hurt ;)

What a bitter-sweet day for you. I wish I could say something brillant but you already did.

Peace my friend

M@ said...

All of the women make such a big deal of the holiday that one woman wished us a happy "Valentine's Eve." Seriously. Cut it out, ladies.

crazy working mom said...

Happy Valentine's Day and Happy Anniversary to you, my friend!

Mimi Lenox said...

I've thought of you several times today and wondering how you're doing. This was a lovely post, Odat.

Be good to you.

Echomouse said...

He sounds like a wonderful man and partner :) As others have said, I'm so glad you had these years together. {Hug} This was a very nice tribute to him.

Jeff B said...

So gald you could share some of your memories about your husband with us today. Hugs headed your way!

The Boy said...

I'm thinking of you thinking of him. Here's to those good memories.

Patti said...

This is a beautiful post, Odat. I also am thinking of you. Cherish those wonderful memories.

Big hug to you..;-)

Akelamalu said...

You have your memories to keep him alive in your heart - he will never leave. xxxx

Christy said...

Wish I knew what to say, but I don't and probably nothing will help anyway. Just know you're impressing everyone with your positive attitude and strength.

My Reflecting Pool said...

Happy V day anniversary. He sounds like a wonderfully normal guy.

riseoutofme said...

I'm sad, yet laughing reading this.. Bitter-sweet indeed. Thinking of you.

citizen of the world said...

Those are beautiful memories, and a poignant post.

Open Grove Claudia said...

I'm sorry that life is the project he was able to finish. I know. I know. It's better than the alterative - a decades long lingering. Still...

((hug))

Sunrunner said...

Thank you for sharing him with all of us. I hope that each little bit that you write helps to make things a little better. Take care.