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Thursday, December 28, 2006

Half Full

As I slowly get back into the work week after enjoying a wonderful holiday, my thoughts sadden and return to a simpler time when my family was whole. My brother passed away two years ago(much too young), my Dad passed on in December (a long time ago but I miss him a lot still) and my Mom is in a nursing home. I'm separated from my husband but we're still very good friends...he's a good man. I have wonderful friends and a great support system for times like these.
Although the holiday was wonderful, I get all sorts of happy and sad at this time of year, so if my posts sound like a mad woman or Sybilish...bear with me for now. I always have a mini breakdown after the holidays. It's a renewal time, if you will, and will pass quickly. I'll be back to my old devlilish self in a few days.

I just want to share with you a quote which reflects my feelings now, from my "Each Day A New Beginning" book that I read on a daily basis...The December 28th passage is:

"The human heart dares not stay away too long from that which hurt it most. There is a return journey to anguish that few of us are released from making."
- Lillian Smith

"As the sore tooth draws our tongue, so do rejection, affronts and painful criticisms, both past and present, draw our minds. We court self-pity, both loving and hating it. But we can change this pattern. First we must decide we are ready to do so. But first we must become "entirely ready". And then we must ask to have this shortcoming removed.

The desire to dwell on the injustices of our lives becomes habitual. It takes hours of our time. It influences our perceptions of all other experiences. We have to be willing to replace that time-consuming activity with one that's good and healthy.

We must be prepared for all of life to change. Our overriding self-pity has so tarnished our perceptions that we may never have sensed all the good that life daily offers. How often we see the glass as half-empty rather than half-full."

Hurray for change....and I wish all of you an upcoming year of "half-full" glass days!



Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

sigh, this is so true....bee

Pickled Olives said...

Damn, I am sorry. Life is hard enough without having the ones you love around to share it. I'll be here while you write in Odator Cybil format.

Michael C said...

It will all get better. I wish you supreme comfort as you go through this time of year. It was a lovely post. Did I just type the word lovely??

My Heart Hurts said...

LIFE deffinately has it's moments. Hang in there... I know all too well the ups and downs of the Holidays. ((((HUGS)))) ~M

Odat said...

Thanks all...I know it will get better, it always does....!!!!

heartinsanfrancisco said...

I am sorry for your past pain that continues into the present. But I so admire the courageous spirit that tells you even as you suffer that you can still make choices, and that you choose not to let these tragedies dilute the many pleasures life offers.

I wish you a year in which your blessings far outweigh your sorrows.

Claudia said...

hang in there...Peace and Happy New Year.

Aisby said...

The holidays are hard for everyone but particularly so when you have lost loved ones. It's always good when you can continue to get through them and look forward to the "rebirth" of the new year and see the future as a glass half-full.

mist1 said...

That's a nice thought for the end of the year and the beginning of a new one.

Bikerbabenj said...

Waiting On Tomorrow

Yesterday is gone
Today is here
The day's almost over
Tomorrow is near.

There's more ahead
Comin' your way
Better and Stronger
With each new day.

Searching no more
Unlocking the key
Opening the door
To reality

Lightning strikes
Like Cupid's arrow
Moving fast forward
Waiting on Tomorrow.

Lee said...

Gee whiz Odat...I really wish I could give you a big hug.

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Liz said...

How true that it can be almost addictive to dwell on the unpleasant things of life. Here's to being grateful for the good things in life and welcoming the changes of life with open arms. Hugs to you, Odat

Crankster said...

When I was younger, my sisters and I would celebrate our holidays with a motley crew of DPs and orphans. We did it again this year. It's amazing how a full house can create a full heart.

Family is where, and what, you make it. Odat, you help me keep my glass half full!